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Is it possible that a father or a mother does not love their child? This is undoubtedly a tricky and difficult topic to tackle, in fact, it is a topic that is not talked about and about which we can find very little information as if it were a taboo.
We tend to deny everything that is difficult for us to accept and digest. For this reason, It is unlikely that I know of the situation of parents who do not love their children, but it is possible.
1- Feelings of rejection or emotional distancing.
Fathers and mothers frequently attend psychology consultations who report feeling a great emotional distancing or feelings of rejection towards their children who do not know how to fight and, furthermore, do not know how they originated. These feelings of rejection or emotional distancing generate great guilt in parents and this prompts them to seek psychological help on some occasions.
These feelings are very common in the first months after the baby is born, many parents experience them but it has nothing to do with not loving the child. They are usually temporary, so we should not be alarmed if for a time we feel emotionally distanced from our child.
Having a child is a major change in our life. It is normal that we miss certain privileges or comforts that we had before becoming parents and that this produces some dissatisfaction that translates into feelings of rejection towards the child that will soon fade.
2- Toxic relationships between parents and children.
There are fathers and mothers who do not love their children adequately and establish with them a toxic and harmful bond for both parties, although especially for the child because he is in a situation of greater vulnerability. Parents who establish toxic relationships with their children are not, in most cases, aware of the harm they do to children. They relate to their children from their fears, their needs, their shortcomings and their frustrations and inhibit the possibility of their children growing up in a healthy way. They frequently point out what they are doing wrong, they do not transmit positive messages, they generate guilt and constantly demand them. And, frequently, they manifest behaviors of humiliation, hostility, rejection and contempt.
Is hurting a child emotionally incompatible with feeling love for him? From our point of view, yes or at least that way of wanting is absolutely wrong. It is not enough to want, it is necessary to want well.
3- Lack of feeling of love or affection towards a child.
There is nothing more painful for a child than to suffer from the lack of love of his parents for him. This is also possible to happen although it is the least likely. There are parents who do not provide affection to their children, who do not take care to offer them protection, neglect their needs and who do not maintain any bond of attachment with them, causing the children to be involved in a situation of emotional abandonment. The lack of affection and affection has serious consequences since it interrupts the cognitive, physical, emotional and social maturation of the child. And, unfortunately, many children find themselves in these kinds of situations.
This topic is difficult to address and, as we mentioned at the beginning of the article, it is a topic that there is much to talk about but unfortunately it is usually a taboo. In this article we have tried to mention the situations that can make us think that a child is not being loved by their parents. But there are some situations, such as temporarily feeling feelings of rejection towards our child, that have nothing to do with not feeling love towards him or her, so we should not worry if this happens to us.
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