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I want to explain to you in the simplest way possible the meaning of a term that has been playing a lot lately: resilience.
Imagine a pencil that breaks it in half. What happen? that is broken and will no longer return to its primary state. It may be that you stick it with glue or tape, that you try to put it together, but already will not return to its previous state.
Now imagine a bamboo pole, we try to break it, we bend it but it always returns to its previous shape.
If we transfer it to people, the pencil would be a non-resilient person, and the bamboo a resilient person, a person who adapts to changes and manages them appropriately. As we can improve and train resilience in children?
"The human capacity to assume flexibly borderline situations and overcoming them is resilience. " In addition, thanks to this capacity we can face crises, traumatic situations, and even discover in ourselves resources that we thought we did not have to face these situations.
So resilience is something we can develop. It is positive to train children in these 3 very easy but at the same time basic aspects, in order to develop this capacity in them.
1. Teach him to know himself more. That he knows his limits, his virtues, his emotions, his feelings, etc ... I propose the technique of the "pot of Ketchup"; I asked him what if it were a pot of ketchup, why should we buy it and why not? in this way you are invited to go deep inside, analyze yourself and make self-criticism.
2. Teach him to be more flexible and to relativize. We have to teach them to be flexible, to improve their adaptation. For this I propose the Technique of Consequences. Invite him to think of a concern that is what he or she important enough; Suppose you are going to fail English, then we ask you to write down the things that you do not want to happen in your life, and you will surely write something like: I don't want to die, I don't want my parents to separate, I don't want to be sick, etc ...
Once you have written it, we link them to your concern:
- If you fail English are you going to die? Obviously not.
- If you fail English will your parents separate? Obviously not.
- If you fail English are you going to get sick? Obviously not.
Thus in this way we confront our children so that calibrate what is really important , relativize and adapt depending on the importance of the circumstances or situations.
What we must also teach him is that suspending surely responds more to a lack of attitude or responsibility than to other causes.
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